“How can you possibly be a real Christian if you support gay marriage?”
And because I hate political discussions – as well as confrontation – nine times out of 10 I’ll just smile and attempt to change the subject. But after this morning’s SCOTUS decision in regards to this very matter, I feel almost compelled to share my thoughts. Some will agree with them, some will not, and that’s all okay.
First, I’d like to take this time to admit that 20+ years ago, I used to be against gay marriage. I thought it was sinful and the bible plainly said that it was an abomination. Tab A into Slot B, and all that. I was a teenager, just starting to form opinions on world issues and in my teenage naïvety, I was pretty sure I had the world all figured out. (LOL. LOLOLOLOLOLOLOLOL.) There was no gray area between the black and white I saw. This was right, that was wrong, and that was the end of story. Like I said, I was young and naïve.
I spent my 20s and early 30s focusing on snagging my husband and starting our family. It was somewhere in there that I actually started to think for myself. I began to question a lot. About everything, really, but especially the issue of equality for gay community. It was also during this time that I found our current church and we began attending regularly. I heard the pastors preach of love, love, love. I heard my children learn songs about God’s unfailing, unending love for us. And I started to wonder… how could this loving God condemn someone to Hell because of whom they love? That question is pretty much where it all began to change for me.
But it says so in the bible!
Yes, it does – in the book of Leviticus. But have you ever read Leviticus? That book has some crazy stuff in there! Among stating that lying with another of the same gender is an “abomination,” it also says that: women are worth less than men, tattoos are prohibited, rude children should be put to death, women who have premarital sex should be put to death, birth control is a sin, slavery is a-OK and God shuns those with disabilities. (As the mother of a special needs kid, that last one really was a slap in the face…) So if you find yourself disagreeing with these additional statements from Leviticus, then maybe you should give a second thought to that whole “abomination” part as well. Know why?
Because guess what else it says in the bible?
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 New International Version (NIV)
4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails. I’m pretty sure there is no fine print at the bottom of 1 Corinthians 13 that says (*does not apply to gays).
As a Christian, I am called to live as Christ-like an existence as I can. Am I perfect? I’m pretty sure my parents, husband and kids can testify that I most certainly am not. However, there is one rule that I strive to live by every day. Some days I succeed, some days I don’t but I never not try. What rule is it? “Judge not, lest ye be judged.” It is not my place in any way, shape or form, to judge someone else for the way they live their lives. Gay marriage has absolutely no effect on my marriage. None. It has no effect on you or your marriage. What gives you the right to decide what I can and can’t do with my own life??!!?! Mind your own business. If you don’t like gay marriage, don’t get one. But don’t tell other people what they can and can’t do and how they should live their lives. You have no right.
So yes. Today, I celebrate the decision made by the Supreme Court of the United States. You may not, and that’s your prerogative but notice what I am not doing: I am not telling you how to think or what to do. Pretty nice, isn’t it? Perhaps that is something you should try yourself.
Live and let live.